I spent a few hours with my niece and Sister in law. I giggle a little because legally, My sister in law is not my sister in law and my niece is not my niece. Why, do most people think if you Divorce a man or woman, the relationships and feelings you have developed over the years change? Like all of the sudden, I no longer have memories of weddings, births, deaths or parties. All of the sudden, you lose an entire part of your life.
When my Mother in law died, I reached out to comfort my niece because I still viewed her as my niece and this was her Grandmother so obviously she had feelings. At that point, we exchanged phone numbers and Facebook information. Our relationship has grown in to more than it was even when the marriage itself was going strong. Death and Facebook actually created the doorway for us to walk into a brand new relationship.
Today I had lunch with these two very lovely women and we enjoyed just talking about life. This family tends to believe if you get together without them, you without a doubt must be slinging dirt but we didn't. No need to. It is a special day for a special girl and that my friends is where our focus was.
I really am so blessed to have a niece that wants to continue considering me her Aunt but also that loves and respects my life, my choices, we talk... She and I share a common bond and I understand so many things better than perhaps any other member of the Aunt Hood because I have lived it, they have not. Anyway, She is a special girl and today was a special day. Oh and my sister in law and I have had the very first meeting, making us Charter members of The Martin era FIRST WIVES CLUB!
Happy Birthday to My Niece and may she be blessed Many times over...
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